独一无二, 无尽的爱

Last Friday met a friend C and her boyfriend A, and went together to a pub in Houhai - Zoo Houhai - where my friend’s former language professor was holding his birthday. It’s just a gathering of friends and friends’ friends, having a chat and some drinks. C and A are both English teachers, but [...]

极为欣赏这样一句话：你不是最好的，我只爱你。仔细回味，这体现出的该是怎样一种乐观豁达而又理智执着的爱情！
　　人说，自你一降生，就有一份天定的缘为你而生；然而大千世界，人海茫茫，生命苦短，如何才能找到属于你的那个完美的伴侣呢？现代的人们，总不能固守这份天缘，不能以易逝的青春和焦灼的心情屏息静候吧？于是，他（她）们常常很勉强的接受了随风而至的他（她），却又一遍遍地把她（他）和自己心目中那个完美的设想来进行对比，对比一次，失望一次。他们并不懂得，如何去珍惜身边的和已经拥有的；他们也不知道，自己已经得到的，其实就是最大的幸福，最真的爱情！
　　什么是爱情？哲人说，爱情就是当你知道了他并不是你所崇拜的人，而且明白他还存在着种种缺点，却仍然选择了他，并不因为他的缺点而抛弃他的全部，否定他的全部。
　　如果有这样一个人，他在你的心目中是绝对完美的，没有一丝缺陷，你敬畏他却又渴望亲近他，这种感觉不可以叫做“爱情”，而是“崇拜”。崇拜需要创造一个偶像，就像图腾之类没血没肉的东西；而爱情不需要，爱情是真真切切得能够用手触摸用心体会的。爱情是你明知他穿得十分土气，却甘愿带她出入于广庭大众；是你鄙视的杀猪匠，却偏偏做了杀猪匠的妻子；是你素有洁癖，却十分勤快地为他洗着油腻腻的饭盒脏兮兮的球鞋……
　　一位秀慧双修的女孩大学毕业后，拒绝了很多优秀男孩的追求，最后却选择了一个毫不起眼却个子矮小的同事。周围的许多人都觉得不可思议，就连她的闺中女友也表示不理解。而她自己却很坦然，在众人疑惑的目光中，她披上了婚纱与先生施施然地走进了“围城”。多年以后，当她的同学都疲倦于营造自己的一隅、失望于当初幻想的破灭之时，同学聚会时众人才发现：这位女孩并没有如他们原先所想象的那样，被困在一个庸碌无为的圈子里，憔悴不堪；而是依旧光彩照人，甚至比以前还多了一份成熟的雍容和深刻。他们手牵手的向众人走来，眼中流露出的生生世世的依恋和从容，让在场的每一个人都怦然心动！这位女士告诉大家，她的男人不是最优秀的，他有许多的缺点，但这些在她还没有接受他的时候就已经知道了。而她愿意，今生今世，要将自己的感情托付给这个在她遇到挫折的时候默默的在帮助她、在她失意的时候热情的鼓励她，并且从不索取任何回报的男孩。
　　由此可想，如果有一份执着而持久的感情和一份金玉其外瞬间即逝的“感情”，你宁愿选择哪一种？――世界上有许多出色的男孩和美丽的女孩，然而真正属于你的感情只有一份；千万莫要因为别人的眼光而改变了自己的挚爱，莫要活在别人的眼光里而失去了自己！感情不能贪心，也不是梦想。“如果有谁认为有十全十美的爱情，他不时诗人就是白痴。”这话使我深信不疑。所以，我们用心来守候属于自己的、并不惊天动地的爱情，紧随之后的便是一生一世的厮守！
　　是的，没有一个人是完美的，也没有一分感情是毫无瑕疵的；爱情与爱人，只能是真真切切的。什么时候，我们才能平心静气的想想这些话呢？想想我们当年苦苦追求完美的可笑和天真呢？
　　你不是最好的，我只爱你！读起这句话的感觉，总象是一对沧桑历尽的老人正手牵着手漫步在煦暖的阳光下，满脸幸福的回忆着往事……往事已远，而追忆长存。
Article and picture taken from a friend’s QQ space, which non-QQ users cannot access. I will translate it into English later.

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